Originally Posted by: 6strngs_2hmbkrshey, I'm alive, in case anyone was wondering. .
I'm very glad to hear it too Nathan!
SO.........
By now you must be able to see that:
1. People do actually give a damn.
2. You had some good advice among the replies.
3. There is always someone much worse off than you are.
Despite the fact that us guys donāt actually know each other ā and I mean all of us in here ā we share a common bond in that we are all musicians. That means weāre the creative types, and by merit fairly sensitive and expressive people, people who pick up on things maybe a little more than the average guy. You can also find comfort in the fact that it appears you do have friends in here, who do actually care. Iāve only been a member of this site for a week or so, and from what Iāve seen, youāll not meet a bunch of more helpful, friendly and downright decent folk anywhere. Itās a pleasure to be among people like that, it really is.
Not everyoneās life is great all the time buddy, and youāre only a kid really, you got it all in front of you, and things will get better. If we had it good all the time, we wouldnāt know the good times from the bad. Also, not everyone who picks up a guitar will become a rock star, itās as simple as that, but if you have determination, and can harness that rage you feel into a controllable desire to get ahead, youāll find that shopping carts and ill-mannered managers become something you can look back on and have a good smile about.
I did wonder (and worry) that you may just be pissed off enough to do something foolish, and thatās what it would have been, foolish. Would you rather be remembered as the mixed up kid, who took his life for no real reason other than he thought his life was no good, or be remembered as a good musician, the envy of your neighbourhood, and the type of person everyone wants to be with.
Just stick with it pal. If you feel depressed, do what I always did, and write a depressing song. I found that by doing that, the demons flowed onto the paper, rather than around my bloodstream in the form of an overdose. Listening back, I did some pretty dark stuff, and although Iām not known as a āHappy Songā writer (my mother was always on at me āWhat canāt you write something happy?ā) some stuff I wouldnāt even let my best friends hear. Once you learn to exorcise your devils, youāll move ahead. Itās bottling stuff up that damages us, as the pressure builds to such a degree it just has to blow sooner or later. Iāll post a couple of examples of my low points on one of my sites (Iāll link below) and you can see, even though Iāve been around the world a few times, with some of the biggest names in music, it is NOT the key to happiness.
When I was younger I was permanently down, but it passed. Iām 45 on 25th May (a very young 45 I might add) and I am happier now than Iāve ever been. I still travel around doing my own thing (not too far though) and am still getting paid to do exactly what I began doing at 8 years old, sat strumming the yard brush at grandmaās house.
Life is out there waiting for you pal, and I know Iāve already told you this ā and this goes for any of our pals here, who think itās not happening for them ā IT WILL NOT COME TO YOU, you have to go out there and actually believe you ARE the man. Youād be surprised, but if you believe in you, others will too. No one wants to be with a loser, someone who falls at the first hurdle.
Letās have no more depressed talk in here? If it seems like Iām lecturing you, then youāre right. I wish to God Iād had someone to sit me down and explain that it would all pass one day. I spent years in a hell Iād made for myself, and there was only me that could see it.
Take god heed of all the positive messages you got in here, and use that positive vibe to your advantage. More :cool: and less :confused:
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