i hate my stepdad!

sometimes i hate my parents! i just got through with a fight , and my stepdad said that if i dont get my grades up, hes going 2 put my electric guitar under the stiars, ALL SUMMER!!!!!!!!!!!!! :mad: my s.dad says that grls shoudent play guitars anyway that i should sty in the kitchen and cook him and my stepbro and my real bro breakface, lunch, and dinner. my real mom died about a yr ago. so im the only grl in the house i guess u could say im pretty much like an orphan.the only people who do understand me r my best buds, step brother, and my guitar and right now u do.any ay thanx 4 listening i'll put up a new thread soon! :D
PS, im in a band and the other guitarist is my step bro, josh, i guess thats why he understands me!

When your step disaster(no offence) is sleeping,have a couple friends grab him and say if he dosn't leave you alone,you'll put his head under the stairs all summer!

Tell you what...seriously,if he gets upset with your grades,tell him to (insert bad word) off or you will quit school.If he attempts to 'ground' you,walk out the door and flip him the bird on way.

Just ask and i'll give plenty more solutions to his 'authority'...He should be thankful your around at all..make it known to him that it could be much,much worse than just letting your grades slip.

(sorry,I can't stand to see anyone discouraged from productive behaviour)

Did you know your stepfather is a sexist piece of crap that seems to think that he has a right to dictate how someone that's not even legally related to him should dictate their life? Seriously, I'd imagine that the grades would go down even more so due to the depression that would be caused by such a movement. I wish you the best of luck. By now I've pretty much figured that family is a want not a need. Furthermore it seems really stupid on his part that he would go to the length to discipline you for not doing better, but is he offering to sit down and help you get your grades up? That always gets me, my dad used to try that **** with me all the time, take something away for not being better but never offered to fix it, just made various threats. What a load.

lol,make them breakfast and defile it somehow...

Sorry to hear about your mom.

The only advice or comfort I can give is to learn as best you can to take care of yourself. There will be a day when you move out on your own, then he can eat fish-heads.

Fish heads,huh?........ :rolleyes:


The step disaster needs to be dealt with,not tolerated.Strong action will put him in his place.He isn't going to hit you and if he does,hit him back and wave bye as he is later hauled of in the police cruiser.

How old are you?If your around 12-17,then moving out may not be an option,but there is no reason you can't have complete freedom from his ideals and standards.Live to your own...if he dosn't like it then he can...well you know.

Never 'put up' with any parent/authority figure(outside the law/justice/government system anyway...).

Speak with conviction and never be intimidated.

Challenging this guy's authority is an excercise in futility, as long as your mom has his back, anyway. Unecessarily butting heads with him is only going to make life tougher for you and probably result in increased tension within the family. Direct confrontation is not the only way to stand up to this guy.

If you really want to stick it to him, make the better grades.

Obviously, he has some fairly stone age ideas for you. By doing better in school you not only take away his justification for forcing them on you, you do something good for yourself.

The more you can say "my homework is done, my room is clean and my chores are done," the less amunition he has and the better chance you have of getting backup from other people in your family.

Originally Posted by: RaskolnikovThe more you can say "my homework is done, my room is clean and my chores are done," the less amunition he has and the better chance you have of getting backup from other people in your family.

While I don't know this mans feelings,I think his intention is not to encourage better grades,but maintain a 'step above' her.Getting good grades is wonderful...but his standards are not her standards.If she gets a B- average then thats hers alone and will not make him happy.

I know their types...Good grades,clean room,absolute submission to his 'good' jugment... here is what you may hear "yeah,better keep it clean...if I find out your grades drop again,your not leaving the house,understand!?Go to your room!"...

A proper response to this attitude is "go to #@&*%& hell,talk to me like that again and I won't do #*@&!!!" with a strong authoritive voice.Keep a determined,serious face around him...he needs to respect you.

I give respect where it is deserved....If you don't stand up for yourself you will be a floor mat.

This is a touchy subject I feel very strongly about.I'll participate at a minimum.

Originally Posted by: chucklivesoninmyheartWhile I don't know this mans feelings,I think his intention is not to encourage better grades,but maintain a 'step above' her.Getting good grades is wonderful...but his standards are not her standards.If she gets a B- average then thats hers alone and will not make him happy.

And what if she's getting Ds and Fs?

We're kinda conjecturing here but doing better in school rather than worse always helps more than it hurts.

I know their types...Good grades,clean room,absolute submission to his 'good' jugment... here is what you may hear "yeah,better keep it clean...if I find out your grades drop again,your not leaving the house,understand!?Go to your room!"...

A proper response to this attitude is "go to #@&*%& hell,talk to me like that again and I won't do #*@&!!!" with a strong authoritive voice.Keep a determined,serious face around him...he needs to respect you.

A lot of my friends went through similar situations and the only ones to ever tried that sort of thing and pulled it off are the ones who had their business in order.

If your grades are good and you take care of your other responsibilities, you've got something to fight about; if you get straight Ds and never help out around the house, you're running face first into a brick wall.

I give respect where it is deserved....If you don't stand up for yourself you will be a floor mat.

My point is that defiant confrontation in and of itself is not a winning strategy. Look at the West Bank and Gaza Strip and compare that to how India won its independance from the British Empire.

The more she can do to deny him power and credibility, the more leverage she has if and when it comes time to tell him to go crap in his hat.

So I guess this is the place to burn off steam?

Originally Posted by: benk1277So I guess this is the place to burn off steam?

Within the rules of the forum, pretty much.

Thats the thing , I MAKE GREAT GRADES! i usually only have 3 B' b and 2 A's. Im replying 2 chucklivesoninmyheart, im 14. But while he fell asleep on the couch, i snuke in2 his room and i found the key that goes under the stairs, where my preasious guitar is. hes leving this weekend, something on buisness, and i can take it out then! :D

Nothing wrong with those grades. Keep up the good work. Be careful with the key, though. The last thing he needs is another excuse to be a jerk. While you have it though, see about getting it copied.

Dont worry about the key, he wont even know its missing.Hes WAY 2 busy with another woman. her name is Vivian.Shes a suck up. she agres ith my step dad, u know that i shouldstay in the kitchen and cook, and that i should give up on my guitar dreams. WHAT A (bad word!) :mad:

Originally Posted by: guitargeek101Thats the thing , I MAKE GREAT GRADES! i usually only have 3 B' b and 2 A's. Im replying 2 chucklivesoninmyheart, im 14. But while he fell asleep on the couch, i snuke in2 his room and i found the key that goes under the stairs, where my preasious guitar is. hes leving this weekend, something on buisness, and i can take it out then! :D

3 "B"s and 2 "A"s? Those grades are better than what I made in high school, and I got into a great college. The man is insane. PS, does he really tell you your place is in the kitchen?

The guy sounds like a nazi.A good confrontation may in order...don't be afraid of him.Let your true feelings fly and his will too.

Yes, he really tells me my place is the kitchen, not in a band :mad:

Originally Posted by: guitargeek101Yes, he really tells me my place is the kitchen, not in a band :mad:

If he honestly has that mentality then he needs to quit being a ****tard and get an education. I have joked with friends that they need to "get in the kitchen," but wasn't aware that a grown man would tell his own step-daughter to do so. What a ********er.

i cant believe he left out cleaning! ;)