Originally Posted by: RaskolnikovThe more you can say "my homework is done, my room is clean and my chores are done," the less amunition he has and the better chance you have of getting backup from other people in your family.

While I don't know this mans feelings,I think his intention is not to encourage better grades,but maintain a 'step above' her.Getting good grades is wonderful...but his standards are not her standards.If she gets a B- average then thats hers alone and will not make him happy.

I know their types...Good grades,clean room,absolute submission to his 'good' jugment... here is what you may hear "yeah,better keep it clean...if I find out your grades drop again,your not leaving the house,understand!?Go to your room!"...

A proper response to this attitude is "go to #@&*%& hell,talk to me like that again and I won't do #*@&!!!" with a strong authoritive voice.Keep a determined,serious face around him...he needs to respect you.

I give respect where it is deserved....If you don't stand up for yourself you will be a floor mat.

This is a touchy subject I feel very strongly about.I'll participate at a minimum.