i've had the same problem too. the only difference is, i felt that all my life i felt that i'm always moving (and i dont just mean it philosophically but literally).
There is a saying that you can never be prosperous by staying in one place. In order to prosper, my family always had to move- and not just from city to city but also from country to country. And I can't blame them for it because they've given me a very good life so far.
The only downshot is, I have to sacrifice something for it. As a kid growing up, I hated moving. I felt that I never truely had childhood friends because I was always leaving from one place to another. I also hated the fact of having to start over and adjust/ adapt again to the new surroundings, meet new friends etc. etc. How many times have i left gfs behind, bands behind, possible contracts/ gigs behind, best friends behind... so many memories- i still get sad thinking of it. But if there's anything that consoles me, it's the fact that i think i made the right decision to stick with my parents.
Looking back, its not such a bad idea after all. The bands that I left behind continued on without me, some of them got recording contracts, some of them didn't but none of them made it big time. And now, looking at my life I can say I'm more successful than they are because I have not as much bills to pay, things to worry about, and I go to university too those things with the added benefit of having a better band, offers to play overseas, and the most important of all- a family that is "intact".
You see, the future didn't turn out so bad after all when it did come. So my advice is, if the reason why you dont want to move with your parents is the possibility of missing out on your band's potential success, I say don't worry about it. Move on and go with your family. If you're really good, you'll get there- whether you find a band in your new neighborhood or not.
I used to be so independent in having a band because I am more of a vocalist. But since I was always moving, I learned to live with it. I became a better musician too- I forced myself to learn how to play the bass, keyboard, and drums and I also got better with my solo act because you never know if you're going to have a band or not and when you have a show, you have to do your best whether alone or with other people, you just have to find a way.
Sometimes I have a band, sometimes it doesnt last and I find myself going solo and although everything keeps on changing- i can honestly say that my music career has never been better- infact it's better than my old bands'. Sometimes going solo has its own benefits- I get paid more (I dont have to divide the money to anyone but myself), and I don't have to go through the process of arguing with band mates and issues with artistic freedom and stuff, and I don't have to worry about compromising with someone etc etc.
The main point is: things are not as bad as you think it is. Just go with your family, man. They need you the most. The band and stardom will come. If it is for you, then it will come in due time. No sense rushing into these things. Nothing's more better than having a complete family. Besides, its not like you wont be seeing your friends anymore. In my growing days, there's no such thing as cell phones and computers, internet, emails- phone numbers have 6 digits and area codes were way different so even if I did kept their home numbers and home addresses, it was of no use when they started changing the area codes and the phone numbers. At least you have all this new technology to reach out to them.
Please consider a lot of things carefully before making this decision and I hope that whatever path you choose to yourself, i hope it would lead to the right decision. good luck.
Hey, just paragraphed your reply so that people would actually take the time to read your good advice. Also, it's not necessary to add a bunch of spaces at the end of your posts. (iamthe_eggman)
[Edited by iamthe_eggman on 12-30-2003 at 09:00 AM]
"Lets see… well I play the guitar and when I'm not playing the guitar, I think about playing the guitar. My other favorite instrument, is the guitar and if I aspired to play any other instrument, it would be the guitar...
I can’t sing so I sing through my guitar. So when the sound guy says: “Your guitar is too loud!” I think: "Why does he never say that to the vocalist?"
