Most Tragic News Ever

Marcos, I don' know you, but that's no matter. Just reading about your loss I feel such a terrible sadness for you. I think the best advise i've read from other posters is to stay close to those who love and care about you. Surround yourself with good friends and family.

My little sister is battling cancer right now. Like you, I don't know why this aweful this has happend. But happen it has. Yet one thing and one thing alone is helpling me to cope in her illness, and that IS my faith in Christ.

Have I been mad at God? oh ya, big time. Have shouted and sreamed : WHY!!! ? Have doubted his power, his mercy, and supposed luv for me? A hunderd times over.

And I've also had to appolgize, because he has come through for me and my sis. She may still die and maybe soon -- I don't know.

But mercy has been show to me Marcos, the dread and fear are gone. Am I cavalier about this? No, no I'm not. Do I still question? For sure, but more than that, a stillness can be found, and an amazing grace pays me visits when I truly need it the most.

You know, almost without exception every great man or woman in the Bible has railed against and hated God for a time -- often many times. But in each and every case, his grace, peace, mercy and yes unfailing love ultimalty proved more than sufficient for those in agony.

I do not believe that God slew your boy. Not for a moment. But one fact I would take a bullet for is this: Christ does care. But being in so much pain right now I know it sounds like total crap.

But please, when the anger subsides, and fog of confusion lifts. The "why" will begin to fade in the future. But the hurt reamins. And that is the time to make that leap of faith, and grab onto the hand that can and will mend the deepest hurts. This is the experience of millions and millions Moarcos and with all hope I can muster, I pray it will become your reality as well.

Again, I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Randy

I am so very sorry for your loss.

As difficult as this is for you, and there is no doubt that this could only be the most trying time in any person's life, it must be more difficult for your child's mother. There are any number of real and deep emotions hitting her. She needs support more now than at any other time in her life, even if she denies it, fights it, refuses it. She must have someone to lean on that can carry her emotional state, and with the resolve to save her, the tables will be turned and she will save you as well.

You need each other more now than ever, otherwise the hurt already manifested through the death of your young loved one will turn cancerous. Friends and family will comfort you as best as they can, but when they leave at night, when the dishes are done and put away, the only one you will be left with who can truly understand your pain, but has to deal with her own in the course of things... is standing right in front of you.

Be strong only when called upon to be so.

Like alot of other people here, I really don't know what I could possibly say to comfort you or your family at the moment.
The one thing I know having browsed these boards for the last year or so is how proud and how good a father you are.
Stay strong and remember people are here for you.

I slept for awhile. I feel rested but the pain can get through easier now. I was just numb earlier when I was tired. I hadn't slept all night. I still can't believe it. I can't help but know that the next week is gonna change me forever. I just don't want it to be for the worse. I liked who I was. I miss him so much.

Words have little meaning here, I'm so sorry for your loss. You have my deepest sympathy.

oh my god marcos...what the hell...this is effing bull****..u dun deserve this man..i too dont know what to say..its just too sudden..im real sorry man...this if effed up...god im really sorry...

this is horrible, I'm really sorry Marcos, I cant imagine what you are going through...I wont even attempt to explain or describe anything...just know that my love and support are with you now, and always, and everything positive in me, I send to you.

It's a sick world we live in. I couldn't even begin to relate so all I can offer is my condolences. The lot of you deserve better.

Thanks guys. I really appreciate everyone's comments and sympathy. I'm probably gonna build him a little memorial website. When I do I'll post up the link so you guys can visit if you want. I've been researching child loss support websites and even joined a few. Being with people who have gone through the same thing and sharing our experiences will probably help.

This will always be my favorite pic.

Everything that can be said at this point has been said already. Just know this has affected me more deeply than I ever would have thought. I truly am very sorry for you and your family.

I'm really, really sorry, Marcos. When I read that first sentence, it felt like I'd been punched in the gut. Just hang in there. You ever need to talk, you know where to find me.

I got to talk to Pony on the phone and I must say he is every bit the great person he is on these boards. I just wanted to thank him for listening to the ramblings of a poor, shattered, heartbroken man. Thanks Tristan you really did lift my spirits.

its times like these i wish i was over there...comin over and having a beer with u buddy...just to make things a little better on ur end...

Originally Posted by: magicninjaI got to talk to Pony on the phone and I must say he is every bit the great person he is on these boards. I just wanted to thank him for listening to the ramblings of a poor, shattered, heartbroken man. Thanks Tristan you really did lift my spirits.

I see I'm officially not the only person that Tristan has helped. he really is a great dude.

Originally Posted by: jeffhxits times like these i wish i was over there...comin over and having a beer with u buddy...just to make things a little better on ur end...

I don't drink but I'd let you get smashed silly and perform feats of magic for my amusment. :)

I'm so sorry Marcos... Just don't blame yourself, and remind yourself he's in a better place. Try to be strong for your family.

I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved son . My sympathies for you and your family.
I apologize for my poor English, but I just wanted to say that I really mourn the loss of your precious child.
Marcos, be strong for your wife and the rest of your family.
Sincerely, your friend equator

Dude, that's the worst news I've heard in a long time. I'm really sorry about your loss. I can type this or that, but there's just nothing I can say that really expresses how sorry I am. Keep your head up and don't blame yourself. My thoughts are with you and your wife.....

That was beautiful man. Fox woulda loved it. He woulda stared around looking for where the wonderful sounds were coming from. He loved music his favorite was Vai. Even when he was fussy I could throw on some Vai and put him in his little baby swing and he'd stay there and just listen. Thanks Sean. :)

Marcos man, I'm sorry for your loss. I truely don't know what to say.