A girl with a history...? or not


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03/08/2006 6:54 pm
Well, I have a predicament...and I figured perhaps you guys could help me sort through my feelings...

I recently met an amazing girl...she is just so awesome...and we get on so well...so far this is not a problem...

My problem is this...I have always had problems dealing with a girls past...being only 19(and perhaps an idealist) I have traditional views on sex...I am not a "no sex before marriage" kind of guy...but certainly I believe that sex, love and intimacy go together...and as such, I have a hard time dealing with girls with promiscuous (sp?) backgrounds...

Now with this girl...and I know that I am reading too much into it, and quite possibly imagining alot of it...I overheard her speaking of what she did last night...and I am pretty sure it involved sex with some guy (not a boyfriend...she is single)...now as I said, I overheard this and I didnt hear the whole story...so I may just have assumed the worst...(infact that is even probable)...I never destincly heard the word "sex" or anything...just words that sounded very like it...(maybe I'm just in denial here...?)

Normally if I am with a girl who has a bit of a hectic past, I am usually slightly comforted by the fact that that was her "then" and I am dating her "now"...although with this, it was last night!...

Am I digging into this all too much? what do you guys reckon?
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03/08/2006 7:14 pm
I've found that if you go looking for a serious relationship and try hard to make it all work out... things never seem to fall into place and you never quite get what you want out of it... Now, on the otherhand... I have also foudn that the best things happen when you least expect it. It seems like when I finally tell myself I'm just gonna chill out and be single some great oppertunity comes along that I never even would have noticed. So like Akira said... just play it cool. Don't quite put yourself in the notorious friend zone... and don't get so attactched that you set yourself up to get hurt. just play it cool with her and all the while be ready for other oppertunities...
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03/08/2006 7:55 pm
Are you dating her? I'm not sure if you said, but if you are dating her you should probably be more worried that she's having sex with others. As the guy before said she probably is looking for a quick fling if she is this way (not that that's a bad thing in my book)... just keep that in mind so you don't get your feelings hurt.

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03/08/2006 8:17 pm
If you're not with her and she's doing stuff you don't like, don't get together. If you are with her, talk about it. If she actually cares about you she will understand, and maybe it will clear things up, but if it's something you can't get over together at last you know you tried.
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03/08/2006 8:18 pm
Originally Posted by: acapella rapemeIf you're not with her and she's doing stuff you don't like, don't get together. If you are with her, talk about it. If she actually cares about you she will understand, and maybe it will clear things up, but if it's something you can't get over together at last you know you tried.

There you have it, buddy. Mr. Romance has spoken.
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03/08/2006 8:47 pm
Originally Posted by: earthman buckThere you have it, buddy. Mr. Romance has spoken.


**** you. I hate the language filter!
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03/08/2006 8:48 pm
Originally Posted by: acapella rapeme**** you. I hate the language filter!

Tee hee! *runs away with fear and delight*
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03/08/2006 8:54 pm
Originally Posted by: earthman buckTee hee! *runs away with fear and delight*


LMAO! I hate having to spread it around!
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03/08/2006 10:23 pm
If I were you I'd bang her. In fact, do you have her phone number on you?

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03/09/2006 4:46 am
Originally Posted by: iihollyIf I were you I'd bang her. In fact, do you have her phone number on you?


Sorry Holly...she may just be a tad far away from you...but if you ever happen to be in South Africa...you can have that number for sure
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03/09/2006 5:40 am
I think I disagree with iiholly - don't just bang her. If she really does want to start something, sex is never the best place to start; if all she wants is a quick fling, it's not worth giving her the satisfaction.
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03/09/2006 5:46 am
Originally Posted by: jiujitsu_jesusI think I disagree with iiholly - don't just bang her. If she really does want to start something, sex is never the best place to start; if all she wants is a quick fling, it's not worth giving her the satisfaction.

I think I'm gonna have to agree with this little statement. From what it sounds like your morals don't agree with freelance sex, so stick to your guns. If she wants sex then don't lower your standards or betray your morals for it. Simple as that.
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03/09/2006 3:15 pm
Cryptic for sure...that goes without saying...Its just a matter of wether or not I persue a relationship with her (like the guy above you said...cant remember who it was...sex is a bad place to start anything).

Its more of a problem in that I like respecting people...perhaps there are somethings I know about her (or think I know about her) that could prevent that...

I just wanna know wether this is summin you guys think I could get over...
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03/09/2006 3:52 pm
So she's single and had sex with a guy...that's a hectic past? Are you just concerned that she's a whore and that if you start dating her then she will cheat on you? Just play it by ear. If you're gonna do her, it should at least come naturally (no pun intended). She's obviously not just some random girl, right? C'mon man, its not everyday that you get an opportunity like this. Learn how to use the rubber, strap up, and git'r done! ;)
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Originally Posted by: jiujitsu_jesusI think I disagree with iiholly - don't just bang her. If she really does want to start something, sex is never the best place to start; if all she wants is a quick fling, it's not worth giving her the satisfaction.


My bad, I was being a sarcastic teenager again.
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03/09/2006 4:49 pm
Originally Posted by: Drugs_are_badMy bad, I was being a sarcastic teenager again.


Huh? And you are?
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03/09/2006 4:49 pm
Down with dope, up with hope!
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Drugs, for when no one will give you hugs.
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03/09/2006 4:54 pm
Originally Posted by: acapella rapemeHuh? And you are?

So it's not just me.
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03/09/2006 5:05 pm
Originally Posted by: Cryptic ExcretionsSo it's not just me.


Nope....I'm still scratching my head...
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