Bullying

Originally Posted by: 6strngs_2hmbkrsseriously.. pony, you've had a pretty ****ed up life, I'd say. from what I know of it... but I guess you had a sucky start on life so that this half of your life would be great.. what with asian girls and european cars and getting to work at haunted mansions.. you've got it made dude!

That's the American dream... or atleast its my American dream.


Ah I do remember an instance of bullying. Middle school basketball school team. Basically I was lucky enough to be friends to one of the girls who decided to stand up to those evil preppy bitches. Of course, that usually didn't go beyond the point of knocking each other over. Not a fun two years. Especially for someone like me who doesn't like conflict, and in fact don't even know how to deal with it.

Those bitches.

I swear I'm not bitter.

I've had my fair share of experiences, I'll confess. But I don't 100% blame others. A chunk of my poor school work stemmed from my hating to do school work. Of course a lot had to do with other students and bad teachers (which was a problem that solved itself when I switched to a vocational school), but I've never liked the idea of doing homework. I'm forced to go to school to do the work, and then they give me **** that I didn't ask to do to take home and to do on my spare time. School and home are two different places. I never got a check for my efforts there so I never saw the reason why I should be doing over time for them. Anyway, moving on. A lot of the abuse I got I also take the blame for. I was never one to stand up for myself and to be honest... I asked for it. Really. I was the geek in school that just screamed "make fun of me." I hated it, but every school has a handful of kids that just becon for it. It's not right, and it's shallow to pick on them, but they still exist. And I happened to be one of them. If I was anyone else, I'd probably have made fun of me too. For crap's sake, I would play with legos while listening to slipknot after I just finished jerking off to a victoria's secret catalog. C'mon. Does that not ask for abuse? So I don't really hold any negative thoughts on any of it. I could've probably handled the situations better, so I'll take it for what it is and move on.

Originally Posted by: Cryptic ExcretionsI would play with legos while listening to slipknot after I just finished jerking off to a victoria's secret catalog.

wait! there's something wrong with that?
*hides catalog and legos*

Originally Posted by: 6strngs_2hmbkrswait! there's something wrong with that?
*hides catalog and legos*

I think the worst part about it is that I was listening to slipknot at the time. That's a part of my past I can never atone for.

Originally Posted by: Cryptic ExcretionsI think the worst part about it is that I was listening to slipknot at the time. That's a part of my past I can never atone for.

of course.. I mean, now you listen to some form of pure metal that is soo pure that only a select few actually know what it is..

It's crap. I know, I was on the receiving end of that sort of nonsense for years. As a matter of fact, I ran home from school almost every single day for four years. Worse yet, the idiots who delighted in torturing me lived in my neighborhood. There was never any rest.

As far as telling a teacher, well, you do what you gotta do. I never did because I always felt that 1) they would do nothing or 2) if they did, the retaliation would be five times worse. Also, it just seemed like ratting on someone was worse than taking a beating.

I will say this though; I did get my revenge on each and every one of them over time. I still see them on occasion and it thrills me to no end to see them. They are all obscenely fat, dim-witted mouth breathers who peaked, truly peaked, in high school. I just laugh now. Sure, it was horrible then but now, it's perfect. Karma - from Carson Dailey's lips to my morphine laced ears....

But the only real weapon that I ever found (towards the end of high school) was a smile and a slow walk. No one likes to mess with someone who isn't affected by it. That can be a tough thing to master but it's a skill that will serve you well through your life.

Originally Posted by: 6strngs_2hmbkrsof course.. I mean, now you listen to some form of pure metal that is soo pure that only a select few actually know what it is..

Yeah, sorry to be a dick about it, but over the years it's become kind of a moral of mine. I know there's a degree of childish stupidity involved, but I find it hard to just throw band names around knowing that there are lame asses out there that'll snatch any one of them up and shove them on their playlist and claim to be a big fan when they'd be lucky to name off a more popular song.

I got the brunt of the bullies attacks cause I was from England with an English accent. So immediately, I was branded as a posh 'fag'. Especially since all I had was my weird English clothes with things like sandals instead of shoes and British raincoats.
Of course parents and teachers were no help at all and just laughed it off, not realizing how devastating it was to a young kid.
In high school it got even worse because my parents were constantly moving us to new cities right around mid school terms. So I'd start a new school halfway through the year with no friends, and not knowing what the hell was going on. My parents were totally clueless and used to buy me dorky clothes and things like a briefcase to carry my schoolwork in. (to which I was promptly laughed at by everybody)
Luckily, I was 6ft tall and indimidating on my own so that I never got into fights. But in Toronto, I ended up with an entire gang after me who'd wait at the school for me to show up. (Led by that bastard Bob Price who I swear I'll get even with some day).
It ended up getting so bad that my parents actually had to move us away from Toronto cause I was afraid to go to school.
Even then, my anxiety was so bad that I'd sneak liquor out of my parents bar just so I'd have the nerve to show up for home room.

My fondest wish is that I could go back in time knowing what I know now just so I could get even with those pricks that made my life a misery.

I guess on the plus side though, being isolated a lot of the time caused me to spend a lot of time learning guitar so it didn't all turn out bad.
Then by my last year of high school I suddenly became 'Mr. Cool Dude' cause I was in a band and smoking up with all the other kewl long haired guys.
Suddenly girls were interested in me and people wanted to hang out.

Course, I was jaded by then and basically treated them like crap because my reaction was 'where the hell were you 2 years ago....suddenly I'm in a band and now you want to be my best pal?? Screw you."

High School sucked so bad it felt like going to prison every day.
Then I went to college, got a 76 Firebird and long hair, joined a band and was suddenly Mr. Wonderful. But still, at the back of my mind was the fact that people were being so shallow that the only reason they were my friends was because I was now considered 'cool'... so I constantly found reasons to turn the tables on them, like waiting for them to make fun of a fat girl or something, and then telling them off, going up to the girl and talking to her like a person.

I've long since learned not to take sh* from anyone. I'm the kind of guy who does everything possible to permanently mutilate people in fights.

Passive resistance does not stop bullying. If someone pushes you the only effective response is to push them harder. Bullies do not have low self esteem, they have too much of it. The only way to get respect from them is to forcibly put them in their place.

Unfortunately, there's a negative side to that.
I went to the defense of a guy in my apartment building once who was being bullied and pushed around by a gang member. I didn't realize the other guy I beat up was one of the gang members.
Next day, his whole gang was sitting in front of the school waiting for me.
Half way through the day, the leader of the gang was sitting outside the school waiting for me as I was walking out to the portable and he threatened me saying 'I'm gonna get you".

Anyways, being in my early teens I was scared crapless cause I knew he had a gang of about 20 guys.

Next day though, my mom went to the guys high school and talked to the principle. He never bothered me again, so I can only assume he got an ultimatim to stay in school or else. (it sucks to have your mother fight your battles for you, but in this case I was glad of it.)

Like I said, I friggin hate bullies and gang members who think they're s**** hot and immune from the law because of the young offenders act.
The young offenders act (in Canada) should be repealed and these guys should be treated as adults. There should also be a minimum sentence for possetion of firearms or knives.
Keep em in jail for 10 to 20 years for assault by restricted weapons.
Life, with no chance of parole for armed robbery and the death penalty for murder.