To whom ever it may concern.

Counseling gives you tools, tools for you to heal some scars whatever they might be.

The thing with problems (especially emotional problems) is that at some point you loose sight of the cause and concentrate on the hate/dissappointment/sadness. You get angry at the fact that you are angry and there starts the downward spiral.

A conselor will help you get that cloudliness away and make you face the real cause of your problems. Once the cause identified he will give you tools for you to heal. Then it's all up to you to use them and stick with it. It's not an easy road but it beats being sad and angry all the time.

You have to change what can be changed and accept what cannot. There's no shame in saying you need help and like others have said it will probably make you stronger and I bet it will make you happier.

Life's hard sometimes and reading your post make it apparent that you had your load. I guess it's time you get a break.

And one last thing dude, if seen someone makes you angry then it's up to you to not see that person anymore. It's often better to walk away. Your not letting them win, your giving yourself a chance to regroup.

Yea, I'd definately advice you to seek some help. There's such a bull**** stigma surrounding seeking help, like you're somehow less of a person by doing so. Get the help you need and you'll thank yourself later.

Find a GOOD doctor and talk with him/her as matter of factly...let them KNOW your having some problems.Stick with guitar and enjoy it...always know theres people with the same problems.

Thankyou for venting instead of keeping something like this stagnant within yourself. Dont ever feel ashamed because EVERYONE has this stuff in their life and your no less than anyone for actually trying to deal with it.

My WHOLE immediate family has mental issues...serious.

Sister-psychosis/schiz/paranoia
Brothers(2)-Severe depression/suicidal/manic/anxiety disorders
Me-Severe depression/anxiety and panic disorder
Parents(mother,father)-Depression/manic/social anxiety

yeah,we got dealt a bad hand...

Originally Posted by: joshersi do agree with the fact that you can disagree with me. by all means its ok, but the point im trying to get across is the fact that a therapist is a position that isn't really needed. therapy is all around you, you just have to find it. i think he was wise to come to this forum to try to explain whats in his head. its a good start. communication = key!

its all difference of opinion, and atleast in my opinion, he should get a full spectrum of ideas and thoughts, instead of the usual, visit someone who'll listen to your problems.

In principle, I agree with you, and of course I do respect your opinion- for many people, it is possible to sort these things out, but I have seen times when getting a spectrum of opinions may include bad advice or dangerous observations- the most common is for someone who is depressed to be told by a friend that there's nothing wrong and that they should snap out of it- that may be objectively true, but if the person has a chemical imbalance in their brain, they can't snap out of it and the implication that they should makes then feel even worse about themselves and worsens the condition.

But in some cases, you are right and in some cases, I'm right- either way, I was just presenting a different side of the coin, but certainly no disrespect intended in my post.

peace

I wrote this yesterday when the thread was very young, like a page, but my internet connection went down, so I saved the text in notepad and now I'm writing it again.

I hope you'll forgive me for being such a pessimist, but this being the internet, I'm kinda suspicious when someone posts something like this. It could easily be someone who gets a kick messing with people on forums. It could even be a guy who recently got banned from this site and is just trrying to see how people react to his story and things like that.
So if yours is a true story, EddyG, I'm sure you'll forgive my insinuating that you're a fake.
But being a generally nice guy (it's the things that people do that make one act differently), I tend to belive you. The above is just some sort of "disclaimer".
I'd say that a way of getting things off your chest is always a good idea. Whether it's a proffesional counsellar or the old man next door, or some dudes you talk to on a guitar forum, it's good to get it off. Do it one way or another, but do it all the same.
I won't act like I know what you're feeling (there's no way for me to know that, I'm not you, I CAN'T know it). I also won't try to psycho analyse you by talking about what psychologists say about how a kid is affected by discovering either of his/her parents cheating on the other. The effects of sexual abuse are pretty well known too. All I'll do is what I've already done, tell you to find a way of getting it off your chest. I'll also dare say that you'll get back to good. I may not have gone through the exact same things you have, but I've been through my own **** as well. And so, I'm prepared to bet, has everyone else on this forum. And many of us, scarred as we are, are still holding on. And many of us are getting back to good. And making the most of our lives that we can. And loving it too.
So don't give up. You'll be fine.
Big yourself up.

Originally Posted by: kingdavidI hope you'll forgive me for being such a pessimist, but this being the internet, I'm kinda suspicious when someone posts something like this. It could easily be someone who gets a kick messing with people on forums.

Why does it matter? It's not like the dude was trying to get anyone to send him money or anything out of sympathy.

Originally Posted by: JFRICKWhy does it matter? It's not like the dude was trying to get anyone to send him money or anything out of sympathy.

Did you read my post [u]IN IT'S ENTIRETY?[/U] :mad: :mad:

Ending up at counselling or not, I hope it does work out for you. We can't tell what is going to work, I don't think anyone can. You'll have to talk/work with therapists, friends, family, etc... until you find something that works for you.

All I can say is keep trying things, and I'm glad you felt comfortable enough with GT to confront us with your problems.

Originally Posted by: The Ace...and I'm glad you felt comfortable enough with GT to confront us with your problems.

Birds of a feather.

Going to a counsiler eh?... Well, that's hardly a bad thing. If anything it's a good thing. Too many people need counciling and fail to do something about it (by too many people I mean everyone on Earth). Everyone's got a problem that manifests in one form or another and we could all use a designated source to vent it. If counciling can make it go away/make sense/whatever then by all means, more power to you. Just don't deny yourself the opportunity of personal satisfaction.

Originally Posted by: kingdavidBirds of a feather.

have sex together?

Yuck dude!

I only want to say this : seek a counselor, he will help you.maybe it woudnt help by some people.but its not stupid going to a counselor, it will help you
Take care :)