Originally Posted by: earthman buckYeah. Then whip out your junk and say, "What do you think of THAT?!"

I nearly fell off my chair laughing then... :D

A little late to the party I know, my only addition is on shyness itself. I used to be painfully introverted as a kid (I guess maybe lots of us were, how the hell did we find all that time to stay indoors and play guitar?). It's actually the guitar that helped me, when I'm on stage it's like it isn't me. I become supremely confident and start showing off in a way I never could in 'real' life.

I guess all I'm going for is, put on your favourite shirt and transform into 'supergriz... girl snagging machine'. Like the others have said, you can ask in a way that doesn't put you too far out there and as long as if you get a negative you behave like it didn''t matter (not like you don't care, just that her turning you down hasn't broken you) then it'll be cool.

Confidence is good, but mine is sometimes mistaken for arrogance, which is worse than no confidence at all. With some girls, 'cute' gets you into their bed, for most it puts you in the 'friend' camp that is very difficult to break free of. I've always thought the most important thing is to be you, otherwise if you get this girl on lies and you stay together, you're looking at maybe 50 years of acting.... man that'll take it outta ya...

As with everything else, it's practice. If you want, you could try asking out a couple of girls who you're actually not very interested in for a warm up, and if they agree go for a drink and be nice, then escort them home - job done.

That's the other one.... girls as we know talk... if you make a good impression with a couple of them, the news travels fast. Having split up with my girlfriend of almost 10 years, I am now pretty friendly with a fair few of her friends... ;)