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Originally Posted by: earthman buckI have a totally unsocial life. The only place I ever see people is at school. Once I graduate and go off to live on my own, no one's gonna know I even exist. It's the sad truth. I would go out and spend time with people more often, but to be honest, I don't really like most people, and they don't like me. So I figure, why bother? GT is an exception. I like everyone here a lot. That probably has something to do with the fact that it's all on the internet, though. Anyone can be friendly on the web.

I'm kinda a social person, though I don't really like most people either, people always think of me as mysterious or strange, especially cause I'm so open about everything, they're a bit scared of me :p

but I disagree with you Jeffhx, we're not sad people, we chose deliberately not to have a big social life because we like it that way, it's the people that have a problem with us not wanting a big social life, because they don't understand

Originally Posted by: GuitarPsyI'm kinda a social person, though I don't really like most people either, people always think of me as mysterious or strange, especially cause I'm so open about everything, they're a bit scared of me :p

but I disagree with you Jeffhx, we're not sad people, we chose deliberately not to have a big social life because we like it that way, it's the people that have a problem with us not wanting a big social life, because they don't understand

Yeah, in many cases, like yours and Earthman's, it can just be a matter of personal preference, and that's really cool :) . Many people, on the other hand, claim that they have a minimal social life because they prefer it, but there's really something emotional or psychological going on there that even they might not be aware of.

Originally Posted by: earthman buckI have a totally unsocial life. The only place I ever see people is at school. Once I graduate and go off to live on my own, no one's gonna know I even exist. It's the sad truth. I would go out and spend time with people more often, but to be honest, I don't really like most people, and they don't like me. So I figure, why bother? GT is an exception. I like everyone here a lot. That probably has something to do with the fact that it's all on the internet, though. Anyone can be friendly on the web.

Shut up. I hate you.

Obviously joking. Anyhow, don't you see acapella outside of school?

Originally Posted by: earthman buckI have a totally unsocial life. The only place I ever see people is at school. Once I graduate and go off to live on my own, no one's gonna know I even exist. It's the sad truth. I would go out and spend time with people more often, but to be honest, I don't really like most people, and they don't like me. So I figure, why bother? GT is an exception. I like everyone here a lot. That probably has something to do with the fact that it's all on the internet, though. Anyone can be friendly on the web.

I'm really sorry if I'm probing here :o , but when you say that you don't socialise because you "don't like most people", why do you not like them? I mean, I'm not trying to attack you or anything, but is there a main reason you can think of why you don't like socialising?

Originally Posted by: Jolly McJollysonShut up. I hate you.

Obviously joking. Anyhow, don't you see acapella outside of school?

Not if he can avoid it.

nah i was just kidding abt we being sad...i agree with u saying that maybe we just choose to not be socially 'out there'... i had my share of a wicked social life before but now im kinda sick as it tends to get too repetetive...so now...im generally a loner...

Originally Posted by: jiujitsu_jesusI'm really sorry if I'm probing here :o , but when you say that you don't socialise because you "don't like most people", why do you not like them? I mean, I'm not trying to attack you or anything, but is there a main reason you can think of why you don't like socialising?

Stop it, you're attacking!

I mean I have very little in common with most people I have met. There are exceptions, but most people around here seem to think exactly the opposite as I do most of the time. And I don't want to go and socialize with these people for fear I will start to act and think just like they do.

You see, kids my age around where I live are.....idiots. They think the most fun you can possibly have is to get totally hammered and crash their snowmobile into signs. I do not think that sounds very fun. Granted, I have never tried it, but seriously. That's just dumb.

Haha!

"So I was out huntin' the other day, and I got TOTALLY WASTED!!!"
"Oh man, what a fag!"
"I can't wait to go quadding!"

See what he's talking about?

Originally Posted by: earthman buckStop it, you're attacking!

I mean I have very little in common with most people I have met. There are exceptions, but most people around here seem to think exactly the opposite as I do most of the time. And I don't want to go and socialize with these people for fear I will start to act and think just like they do.

You see, kids my age around where I live are.....idiots. They think the most fun you can possibly have is to get totally hammered and crash their snowmobile into signs. I do not think that sounds very fun. Granted, I have never tried it, but seriously. That's just dumb.

So, when you describe them as idiots, are you saying that they are potentially nice people who waste their time with stupid things, or that they're just stupid people?

I'm sorry, now I probably am starting to get on your nerves! :o I was just asking because I'm in a similar situation - I don't socialise very much, because as much as I like a lot of people my age, I'm worried that I will completely ruin my life if I try to do the same things as them - getting hammered, etc. I don't know maybe that's different from how you feel about the issue, but I have a social anxiety disorder :o, so I just wanted to check how someone who chooses not to socialise because of personal preference thinks about the whole thing.

Sorry, I just dropped a huge load on you by mentioning my mental health thingy, didn't I? :o I'm sorry, man.

I sometimes socialize among people and I sometimes completely retreat to my cozy room, why? because I like my privacy and doing things my way and just enjoying being alone but I also enjoy the company of people that are completely different then me, offcourse it used to bother me a whole lot and sometimes made me sick to my stomach hearing the things some people say or how they act, but that's my problem, so I recently learned to simply accept that others are different and it's not my place to judge them, just don't pay attention to whatever they do if it's not what you would do yourself, simply accept it cause you're only troubleing yourself with it, I know being at peace in such frustrating circomstances is a very difficult, or maybe for some, impossible, thing to do, I know I still can't do it all the time, but do I have to? we can't always be a saint, we're simply being human.

and I also got some mental disorder jiujitsu, but I consider myself just being me, I don't like putting tags on people, because they got something with a name (allthough I also do it), they're just being them, different ain't bad, just different and you gotta learn to deal with it, or not

and btw, what does it matter if you do things that they also happen to do, if you like something just do it no matter what other think or do, I sometimes get pretty wasted, why? because I simply enjoyed the evening and had some weird mood to do crazy things! did it in any way influence my future or any other important aspect? no, I'm almost just as (in)sane drunk as I'm sober, I think that's a plus for me, but the important part is that you can do anything as long as you know what you're doing and accept and learn to live with the responsibilities coming with some things

Originally Posted by: jiujitsu_jesusSo, when you describe them as idiots, are you saying that they are potentially nice people who waste their time with stupid things, or that they're just stupid people?

I'm sorry, now I probably am starting to get on your nerves! :o I was just asking because I'm in a similar situation - I don't socialise very much, because as much as I like a lot of people my age, I'm worried that I will completely ruin my life if I try to do the same things as them - getting hammered, etc. I don't know maybe that's different from how you feel about the issue, but I have a social anxiety disorder :o, so I just wanted to check how someone who chooses not to socialise because of personal preference thinks about the whole thing.

Sorry, I just dropped a huge load on you by mentioning my mental health thingy, didn't I? :o I'm sorry, man.

Well, I think everyone could be a potentially nice person, but the thing is, these people have no desire to. They think it makes them manly men to be idiots.

And by the way, 'jitsu, you're not getting on my nerves at all.

Like today. Five of the idiots pushed this guy into a fire escape and locked him in. Me, Brendon (earthman), and our friend Andrew were right there when they did it. This kid did nothing to him, but he won't fight back so it makes them feel manly to pick on him. They said "don't let him out", and Brendon said "or what, five of you will rush me?" So I went and let the kid out, and the idiots just grumbled and left. See, when somebody stands up to them, they don't know what to do. Probably because they lack the necessary brain functions.

Originally Posted by: acapellaLike today. Five of the idiots pushed this guy into a fire escape and locked him in. Me, Brendon (earthman), and our friend Andrew were right there when they did it. This kid did nothing to him, but he won't fight back so it makes them feel manly to pick on him. They said "don't let him out", and Brendon said "or what, five of you will rush me?" So I went and let the kid out, and the idiots just grumbled and left. See, when somebody stands up to them, they don't know what to do. Probably because they lack the necessary brain functions.

Haha, nice work, guys. :D

that's typical behaviour for people that age, later on it will show itself in other signs of abnormal behaviour, it's just really sad but look on the bright side, they'll never get far in life, you will, respect for letting that kid out

but these are just the 'normal' pricks that are on every school, every guy I've known who used to do such things is either changed and regrets what he did or is even worse, in the latter I haven't spoken with them as you can imagine cause they just don't exist in my world, such people often got personal problems

How can so many of you not be social? If I weren't social I would freakin' explode.

I'm social when I can be. I don't get many chances to go out, but when I get one I take it.

Originally Posted by: Jolly McJollysonHow can so many of you not be social? If I weren't social I would freakin' explode.

Me too!!! But then again... I like to stay at home and bury myself in a bunch of good movies and play a ton of guitar every so often... not too often though. I love being around people... I go to the bars with a group of friends about 4 times a week... I like going out at 7 pm and not getting in until 4 in the morning... I get to experience so much and meet so many new people!! I learned pretty quickly after I graduated from high school that life is about connections... usually the most sociable people are more successful because they have the connections... not neccessarily because they're better at something than anybody else... it's sad but true.

I'm with Jolly.
I'm social...and I like people...be it jocks,preps,stoners,rockers, or whatever you wanna call a certain sect, at the end of the day, its all just people...and you get amazing people in every clique.

I'm not saying I like everyone...but I like to think that I outgrew my anti-social phase (and thats not to say that its an immature thing...just that it was for me...just me being as closed-minded and ignorant as the people I "Hated")

Now I fit in, or dont fit in everywhere...I know alot of people, and seem to fit into all cliques without trying...I find if I'm nice, the people I am around tend to be nice (not that they arent when I'm not there...just that I meet more nice people by being nice than by being ****ty).

If I go out now, I also cant just sit around with the same people all night...I have to mingle.
People are amazing guys...not all of them, but even most of the **** ones have amazing traits

Yeah, I'm with you. People are great. They're fun, nothing is better entertaiment than just meeting people. Of course there are still the ones that you just can't along with, but that's life.

Geeez Andrew, you're exactly the opposite of me some years ago, then I really hated everyone and I judged everyone really harsch, like I didn't care whatever reason they had to do something stupid, I judged them, luckily I'm cured :p

I've had like 3 weeks off from school now, from which one week we went to Denmark, and I've noticed since I live alone in the city I study (and my few friends were all gone or busy) that I really needed a broader social life, but how can you do that if you're alone, the sportcenter is closed this week and going out on your own sounds kinda sad, well it is here I guess, people are kinda isolated towards strangers in the clubs/bars