Originally Posted by: HambergYou don't need to use heavy weights as long as you work the muscle group until you can't do it anymore. Thats called muscle failure. For instance, you bench 80 lbs. After you reach muscle failure take 20 lbs off the bar. Go to muscle failure again, and then take 20 lbs off the bar. Keep doing this until you reach muscle failure with the bar alone. You will get results.
I want to make it clear that I do respect female opions veiws and thoughts, There are however differences between men and girls. Also im am not going to change myself for a girl. If what I do isn't cool enough for her then o well. Some other girls will think that its cool.
Obviously approaching a girl and saying, "your hot, will you please be my girlfriend?" is not going to attract a girl unless she has serious self esteem issues, and likes to have a pansy for a boyfriend. Which is not the kind of girl anyone wants to attract.
When I said that, "I'll never stop with the, "ooo shes a guitar player. is she hot?"" I was simply trying to illustrate that we will never stop viewing girls as "objects" as one person put it. I don't belive that objectifing is even the correct term. Regardless, we will continue to view a girl as cute before we do smart, or talented, or whatever. Its biological, just like eating, and will never change no matter how much lesbians hate it. Which brings me to this point that theres a difference between girls being upset about equal treatment and girls being upset about the way men are. If a girl is upset that men are attracted to her physical appearance and personality first, then she must be a lesbian.[/QUOTE]
I have a question here. Are you a weight trainer? I know a weight trainer and he told my husband that you are suppose to start with the lesser weight and do as many as you can do for that day. Then take the next day off so that your muscles can repair themselves. Then the next day add 5 to 10 pounds to the wait that you did the day before and do as many reps that you can for that day. Then take the next day off so that your muscles can repair themselves... and so on. He told my husband with me there too (and this was before I became disabled) that if you start out with the heavier weights and go to muscle failure then you can seriously damage your muscles you could even tear the muscle so badly that it will form scar tissue that could impeade your ability to move your arm or what ever body part. Then you have to have surgery to remove the excess scar tissue to be some what normal in movement. I personally am not a weight trainer and never have been but this is what a trained professional told my husband when he was weight training.
Also most women don't want you to change to make them happy. (At least not the good women anyway.) Although when there is something that a woman doesn't like about a guy and she really loves him and he truly loves her too (This is very important to the relationship is love and an ability to communicate properly with each other) then you should be able to talk to each other to try to come up with a compramise to the situation. Like with my husband and I. My husband loves sports (ALL SPORTS) and I love Football and Hockey (ONLY THOSE TWO SPORTS). We sat down and talked to each other about the TV and SPORTS situation at the begining of our relationship. He still watches all of his sports that he likes to watch and then he got me computer so that when he is watching the sports that I don't watch I get on the computer. Now I just got a guitar agian and I have always wanted to learn to play ever since I can remember. I am disabled and it causes me more pain than normal to play but I do it anyway. Now when he is watching all of those sports I go into the bed room and paly. (Better Acousitic in there anyway.)
And you are right that men will never quite viewing women as objects. But over time I (as a woman) have noticed that men have learned to not just come out and say oh your hot let's date or anything to mean basically the same thing anyway. There are a few of you that still do that but not as many.
As far as women not thinking oh he is hot or he has a big chest or he has a big package hidden in his pants. Yes women do think that when they see a guy for the first time. But she doesn't say it to the guy. (Well most women don't say it anyway.) Most women will however say it to thier friend that is with them though. And then they will laugh about it.
There have been studies done about weather or not women think about sex the same amount of time in a day than men. The studies have found (I can't remember the statistics) that women actually think about sex a lot more than men in any given day. It is just that women (Most women anyway) don't say anything about sex and that is what confuses the men. The women (Most women) don't say anything because they are trying to be mysterious and keep the men guessing because the men like it that way. And yes most women also like a guy who has class. The young women though like to be with a bad boy for a while but then most of them learn from that mistake and realise that they want and deserve to be treated better than that.
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Which brings me to this point that theres a difference between girls being upset about equal treatment and girls being upset about the way men are. If a girl is upset that men are attracted to her physical appearance and personality first, then she must be a lesbian.
The women are upset about men being the way they because they want the men to evolve a little bit. We don't want men to change everything we just want men to have a little more respect for us women because we are pretty much equal. Yes most women are phisically weeker than men. But that doesn't mean that a woman can't have enough determination to get the job done by herself to prove to the man that a woman can do what ever it is. But the thing of it is we might be physically weeker than men but we are mentally stronger than men are and we can take so much more pain than a man could. I would like to see a man give birth and I would like to see a man take all of the sexual harassment and physical harassment comments that you can't do things just because of your genetics. There are things that a woman can't do and there are things that a man can't do and that is what makes females and males equal!!!! A woman being upset about a man being attracted to her looks and not her personality doesn't make that woman a lesbian either.
Sharleen
