no offense but you do sound like a bossy douche band

if your as good as you make it sound like you are you should name the band after your self and make the other members wear masks with your face on it

if I were in a band with a guy who was the only one "to write the songs and pick what songs to do" I might have to kick that guys ass

a band is about 2 or 3 or 4 or however many guys you want who make music together and work off each others vibes, not one asshole with two other guys to fill up the rest of the space on stage