I hope you are doing well and have moved beyond this.  However, I wanted to give a little positive spin to the "small hands" issue. 

I thought I had small hands and arthritis etc etc etc until I watched a friend play some Jimmy Hendrix on her Martin 16" radius acoustic looping the thumb and everything  I struggle with.

I asked her to compare hands she is 5'9" I am 6' and with my palm up against hers envelopes her hands. My pinky alone is .75 inches longer and my index is 1 inch longer.

It's just the stretch I still can't play Hendrix but I can bar most chords from the 1st to 5th frets with the 6th string F major shape. Trust me I am 55 and not that good so ...

Wishing you good luck

Mark