I'm right there with you, Doug. Everyone says it will come eventually if we stick with it. Our fingers will get stronger, we'll gradually learn subtle little adjustments, etc. Personally I think there is a secret ritual that we have to perform but they'll only tell us what it is after we've put in the required amount of pain, suffering, and persistence.
It takes as long as it takes unless you quit - then it takes forever and you will never get there.