Hi Kelly,
I am in kind of the same boat.
I am 53 and started GF 1 in October. I have giant monkey hands but was having problems with the spider drills. I would do them each practice session until we got into chords and i started focusing on functional flexablity and reach for the chords.
Yesterday, for grin and giggles, I did the 'ole spider drill and flew through it, frontward and backward without any issue. I was shocked that this gave me a hard time.
What is the take away? Stick with it! Let it happen and and have fun!
PS a couple of ibuprofin before practice helps too! :) :)