I am finger picking a lot these days. If I am more acoustic strumming, I use the green Dunlop Tortex pics (...hey, back when I started, I used the yellows...when they were supposed to be actual turtle...thus the image..). Otherwise, I use Dunlop Jazz III's. It's a remnant from the 'shredder' days. Still, I am very comfortable with a stiff pic. I just learned innately (somehow) how to vary grip pressure.