SlickJesus - I don't really know a lot about writing songs but it sounds to me like though you need to take some time and learn a bit of music theory and then apply that to your music. Again, I don't know anything about writing music so I'm just offering a suggestion here. Don't know if it will help but maybe it will. And I don't know you may already know music theory and I may be missing your point altogether. If I did - sorry.