Originally Posted by: grizzlymint
Hopefully I can find a friend who wants to take the ride sometime, or get the guy over to my town to jam.

Either of those would be ideal, IMHO. As you said, the chances that this guy is in fact a nutter are fairly slim. My personal philosophy regarding internet meetups is that, no matter what the chances are, always take a precaution just to be on the safe side. The have-a-friend-along idea is particularly good, not only for safety in the unlikely event that he's a whacko, but because, in the overwhelmingly more likely event that he's just a fellow muso who wants to jam, the more the merrier. If you invite him over to your town, I suggest inviting a friend along as well, so you get the best of both worlds. But you're absolutely right not to get overly paranoid about it.