im 41 and my hands look about the same as yours, i would say on average my hands are just a little bit bigger then most womans hands,from what ive seen anyways and not to say some laddies dont have big hands, im sure they do
ive also tried to remove a few digits the index and middle finger of my fret hand and it causes me alot of pain at times but i try to play anyways

so i feel like most say if you want it bad enough just keep practicing you will pick it up
keep playin :)