Originally Posted by: iwant2playgetarhow do you figure out the chords on your own...
What's the trick, because that would so helpful for me....

The trick all lies within the intervals that make each chord. If you learn what kind of intervalic steps from note to note that make a certain type of chord, then you can pretty much figure out anything on your own. So start with learning the different intervals then learn what kind of intervals make up specific chords.

For your convenience I'll provide you a list of the intervals.

Root
minor 2nd
major 2nd
minor 3rd
major 3rd
perfect 4th
diminished 5th
perfect 5th
minor 6th
major 6th
minor 7th
major 7th
octave

Of course, there are additional names for intervals that I've not written down, but if you can get this down to a fashion where you can understand it and whip it out in conversation without inducing a migraine then you should be able to wing it in other circumstances.