See, there ya go!! I'm in a band, and we're having similar troubles. Our singer won't dedicate himself. Everything we do is by vote, and I've brought it up more than once. The bassist is related, so he doesn't want family troubles. The rhythm guitarist is nothing but an ass-kissing yes-man and does whatever the bassist does. The drummer and I want him gone, but we're out-voted. But we have plans in the works....we're working on a side project that if it develops will become our main priority. We don't want to leave this band....we're all good friends and we work together like a well-oiled machine and we have a good following that we've worked hard to build up... but like someone once said..it's nothing personal, just business.