Iv'e popped the question a couple of times and had it popped on me once. So you might say Iv'e had a little experience. There really is no right or wrong way as long as you're sincere. All my wives were wonderful women!! It was me with my drinkin, lieing and hangin out in smokey bars and beer joints that destroyed my marriages and almost killed me too. Marriage is a sacred thing. Do not approach it like I did "oh well if this dosen't work out, I'll find somebody else" This is probably a lecture you've already heard. ALWAYS allow your'e partner the dignity to be whoever they want to be. If you think you can change somebody after you're married; heartbreak and lonelyness will be frequent words in the lyrics you write when they see thru your BS. My lady now says I'm a good man. I ought to be Iv'e had lots of practice. Make it work the first time, young squire. Peace.