First off, dude, why do you ask for our opinions if all you're going to do is totally ignore them? Take what we have to say into account; at least keep it in the back of your mind. Otherwise, this thread is just a weblog of this whole debacle rather than a discussion.

Originally Posted by: Axl_RoseShes can be a bit harsh though, when we split it was a case of "leave me alone" etc. So now when shes actually saying stuff like "dont u agree it might not work" that means shes thinking about it. I mean it was her idea to try again until I ruined things on the firday we were meant to meet.[/quote]

[QUOTE=Axl_Rose]It seems to me that she sees me as a risk. A risk to her happiness and her acting and stuff. And she was only prepared to take that risk until I ruined it all on that friday!

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It all hinged on that Friday we were meant to meet. She was gona explain all about how busy she was.. and Id have to accept it... but then i did the worst thing I could do.. moan and get mad when she cancelled on me.

Dude, again, listen to yourself! A relationship isn't supposed to be so hard! Imagine yourself married to this girl and you're still like a little puppy following her around, always afraid that she'll get upset or leave you. What kind of relationship is that? When you find the right girl (and this here is my prediction that eventually things will not work out between the two of you), you'll be blown away by how freakin' easy it can be!

Relationships are all about give and take. If you're doing all the giving and she won't move, that's a sure sign that the relationship is doomed. You shouldn't have to say things like "until I ruined it all on that friday!", or "but then i did the worst thing I could do.. moan and get mad when she cancelled on me." What kind of relationship is that, where you can't express your genuine feelings? You felt bummed out that you couldn't hang out-- why should she get upset about that?

No girl is so special that you should change your identity, who you are, for her. Sure, if it's bad habits that you lose for her, that's fine. But if she wants you to be a different person, someone less needy or someone who can stand being away from her for long periods of time, that's not healthy. Because, whatever you say about her, the absolute truth is, there are at least a dozen other girls that are even nicer, more beautiful, kinder, famous, than her, and that will treat you like a king. And when you meet one of them, you will regret ever wasting a minute on this other girl. You'll kick yourself because every minute you spend torturing yourself over her was one minute you could have spent with the real girl of your dreams.



PonyOne-- I demand the crown!!!