Your point about pick attack is well taken. I use the same gauge of strings (.010) on my electric-acoustic and on my electric guitars. This males it a bit easier to move from one to another, but I still have to adjust my playing style to acommodate the different instruments. The electric guitars need a very gentle touch, while the acoustics can be played more agressively.

I like your phrase "letting the lady sing by herself". That sums up a good approach to the instrument, and the music.