ArielJ you're so right about pressing down with fingers.  I really started to take things slow.  I move my elbow in or out.  Check my shoulders, wrist angle.  So much effects the fingers I find.

I seem to be a little more constent with everything when I place my guitar on my left leg, guitar body very straight vertacally and the neck angled up untill my wrist and hand feel natural.

BTW, my caluses are still coming in, and I can feel that my fingertips aren't as squishy alowing me to press lighter.

Really helps finding others have the same issues I do.