I can relate and second what was said about the light pressure. I have read that technique in a couple different books as well. I was finally starting to lighten my pressure after 8 months of playing but it was too late for me and I developed carpal tunnel in my fretting hand. (Also because of my other hobbies like ukuelele and sewing....).
But, it is a really important problem to correct as soon as possible for the sake of your hands and wrists. You can do it!
(I also really like Cari!)
“Often, what seems like an impossible climb is just a staircase without the steps drawn in.” Robert Brault, American Operatic Tenor