I ended up trading-in (throwing in a woodchipper) my steel string for a nylon. It took a little getting used to, yeah the strings are way more bendy - it's one the charms of nylon.

Another thing, is it is likely that the neck of your nylon guitar is wider. When I first started out on mine I ended up noticing I was reaching from the side rather than the top as I wasn't used to reaching as wide. So I was muting strings a lot. But it didn't take too long to get better about adjusting my fingers.