playing with a band is rarely, if ever, like playing with a metronome. in fact, to be perfectly honest, i don't think i've ever practiced with a metronome [ don't folloe my example though, i'm just lazy ]. you have to develop an organic sense of rhythm, if that makes sense, when playing with other human beings because the time flows imperfectly when compared with a metronome. the beat is like the ground of being, the foundation, of a good jam. you have to develop a 'feeling' for it, kind of an intuition. i'm prety sure all of this makes little sense [ great qualities for a teacher, eh? ], but it just takes time and practice like anything else. you can't count along with a band the same way as with a metronome because it's apples and oranges. they're really that different. you'll fall into it soon. just flow, man, flow. ;)