I feel your pain, and I have asked the same type of question myself. Without peers to directly compare with, who are starting at the same point and taking the exact same curriculum, it's very difficult to say what any person should know after a period of time compared to another person.
Music is a journey. There may be milestones along the way, but it (IMHO) should be more about drinking in the scenery than reaching a destination.
:)
...so ever since then, I always hang on to the buckle.