Hi Daddyrabbit-

Great post - thanks for sharing your story with us! In my experience teaching adult beginners, the *big fingers* quandary usually resolves itself with time and practice (and usually in fewer than 10,000 hours!), but if it's really tremendously frustrating to you, it is possible to get a guitar with wider spacing in between the strings.

I actually had an acoustic guitar custom made with an extra wide neck for that reason - not that my fingers are large, but I wanted the extra space for certain techniques I was going for.

Someone with more knowledge of electric guitars may be better able to answer your question about which electric guitars might be the best fit for you - (I'm more of an acoustic player), but in the meantime, I wanted to thank you for your post and sharing your story. I'm sure it will inspire others!

Please keep us posted- and have fun!
best wishes, Lisa