A question for married people

I'm not purposely trying to be argumentative here, but here goes...

Originally Posted by: Tonja_Renee-there is more to wearing a wedding ring than just putting a ring on your finger...[/QUOTE]
I would somewhat agree with that, but...
[QUOTE=Tonja_Renee]And choosing to take it off when you play, has more to do with it than just taking it off. And until you are married and have made such a committment, I don't think you will understand.

this part not as much. It's the commitment that's important, not the symbol of the commitment. If there's no commitment, it wouldn't matter if you're wearing a ring or not when some groupie comes along. In fact some guys have been known to intentionally leave the ring on when picking up a one night stand to project that they're in a "committed" relationship and aren't looking for anything more.

Originally Posted by: R. ShackleferdI'm not purposely trying to be argumentative here, but here goes...

I would somewhat agree with that, but...

this part not as much. It's the commitment that's important, not the symbol of the commitment. If there's no commitment, it wouldn't matter if you're wearing a ring or not when some groupie comes along. In fact some guys have been known to intentionally leave the ring on when picking up a one night stand to project that they're in a "committed" relationship and aren't looking for anything more.

I agree that if there isn't a committment to begin with it won't matter if he wears the ring or not... my view was I just don't think it doesn't mean anything to take it off. It the ring isn't important than why exchange them to begin with?

To me and a lot of other women (and men for that matter) - a ring is a symbol of marriage and committment. For someone to so easily remove it, whether they mean to or not - sends a message that they aren't really committed.

Wow!!! I didn't think that the questions would get this much of a response. Let me clarify some things. I have no problem wearing my ring and she has no problem with me taking it off to play. I would rather not take it off to play because I have Massive ADD and that is just one more thing to remember. The other piece of the questions is that my girl is a feminist and does not believe that she should get an engagement ring and I should not get anything, so she gave me an engagement bass (Warwick $$, yeah, she's cool). So the question is would my wedding ring damage my engagement bass? Anyway, like my t-shirt says ...

"Love one woman ... many guitars."

I just want to find a good way to do both.

That's great... I'm glad she doesn't have any problem with it... and in the end that is all that matters.

Guitars will get many dings and nicks over the years if they are played... A wedding ring isn't going to cause any significant damage from regular play. And that would also depend on your practices as a guitar player... if you are rubbing and mauling/drooling over your guitars... lol Then yes you may add an occassional stratch to the guitar from your ring..

You may want to remove it for any guitar lovemaking.. :p

I have a real thick ring on my wedding finger, never take it off. Took about a month to get used to it and stop hitting it off the fretboard but no problems now. Was considering taking it off when I played but then I saw Joe Stump - the guy has loads of rings and pretty much shreds harder than anyone. You'll get used to it plus you won't run the risk of losing it or not putting it on (a woman scorned and all of that!).

My dad lost his ring shortly after he married my mom, he was working one day and it fell off when he was in a hole digging and before he realized it was gone, they had already backfilled. They were talking about years ago at dinner and my mom said it never really bothered her.

If you need a hunk of metal to remind you that you have someone special somewhere else, then mabey marrige isn't the best course to take. I'm not saying don't wear wedding rings, thats one of the main things at weddings. Whether someone is wearing a ring or not, another person will flirt with them. Its up to the person wearing the ring to either wave them off or go along for the ride.

Sure, I'm only 19, I won't understand that kind of commitment untill I'm much older, but everyones different. Some some people see as a huge part of love, others see as a material object that isn't necessary. Ask any woman who was proposed to what their response to being shown the ring was. Unless it was a band similar to the grooms, most will say, wow thats pretty or wow thats a nice rock instead of starring at it and thinking about true love.

To me its not about the ring... the ring itself is nothing... its the act of wearing the ring proudly so everyone can see...

Its like having a girlfriend and not introducing her to anyone you know... yes you have her, but there is something to be said about bringing her home to the parents...

And like I said before, until you are in the position to be in a committed relationship like that... you won't know how special it feels to have someone wear a ring that shows you are the only person in their life... and

And losing a ring accidentally is different than choosing not to wear it... I

I stood before everyone and vowed to love, honor and cherish... and I was given a ring as a symbol of that love... For me to put myself in a tempting situation with lots of men who would flirt with me and then I choose not to wear the ring especially in that type of situation... just wouldn't seem right to me. I'm married and why would I misrepresent myself that way... to me it seems disrespectful to my husband.

Different strokes for different folks, its only disrespectful to take off your ring if its taken off with disrespect in mind. I personally keep mine on all of the time becuase I feel weird taking it off but thats jsut me...