Edit: might as well make this post not completely useless, lol. I looked around for a good site when I picked up the drums this past summer. None are really what I was hoping for (like this site is). The best one I found was this one:
http://www.onlinedrummer.com/forum/index.php
The thing about this site that I did not like is the tendency for people to answer your questions with the "it all depends on how you want it to sound" answer. I felt like every time I asked a question about how to play the toms/high hat/snare, they would always answer by telling me it depends on what I want it to sound like.....that's true, but it also doesn't help me at all.
