Drums are like any onther instrument in that you have to practice alot and practice the proper things. I recommend buying a rudiments book at a music store. Then, and this is important, take a good amount of time learning these on just the snare drum. Don't just try to jump on the whole kit and play. take at least a month on just the snare.

Practicing rudiments is gonna take you where you want to go, and use a metronome and start slow (Notice the similarities to guitar practice?)

Good Luck