I can relate. I have PlaySkool hands. Small with fat fingers. I swear they look like breakfast sausages some days. But seriously, you just have to find your way and which one is the most comfortable. I use both methods, bouncing back and forth to whichever works for that particular chord or technique and I am sure that most people would be horrifed by this admission!

In other words; whatever works. That's what you do. :)