" The Game Is Not Over, Till It's Over!" Being Twenty-Something
They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along
with
the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself
that you didn't know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two,
but
then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends
that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people
you
have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most
important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too
and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as
confused as you.
You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be
doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to
have to start at the bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same
people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so
great after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find
yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that
you
have certain boundaries in your life and
add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.
You are insecure and then secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life.
You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and
you
try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past
is
drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where
you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such
damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent
enough to get to know better.
You love someone but maybe you can love someone else too and cannot figure
out
why you are doing this because you are not a bad person. One night stands
and
random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an
idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with
your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a
decision.
You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for
yourself
and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be
a
contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We
are
in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to
figure this whole thing out.
Send this to your twenty-something friends...maybe it will help someone
feel
like they are not alone in the state of confusion!!!"
