I find that people with smaller hands generally develope a style that is all there own in terms of technique. I have moderatly sized hands and I don't have much trouble, but people that I know have small hands. Every girl that I have ever tried to teach how to play guitar end up saying "F' THAT" because their hands are too small... but just like you said, with practice it will all come together. Try simply stretching your finger a little bit before playing. You can also try to practice some chords that challenge your small-handedness repetativly. That should allow your muscles in your hands to adapt to what you are trying to get them to do. Good luck with it!!!! you'll get it!