every description of ghost notes tells you the same - even my guitarpro software makes a ghost note softer.

"What is a ghost note and how do you play it?

A ghost note is simply a note that is played "quieter" than the surrounding notes. They are very important in Funk drumming, and if they are applied correctly they tend to make the rhythm feel "lighter", "bouncier", and drive it forward with a good deal of energy. They're not hard to master. Listen to some funk drumming (Toto's "Rosanne" is a great funk rhythm, with plenty of ghost notes)." taken from Drummingweb.com

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