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PonyOne

08-25-2006, 08:41 PM

OK, so, there appears to be a new chapter in the ponyone love life. Woohoo! So my friend encouraged me to sign up for OkCupid.com, since it's free, and all the tests and whatnot are pretty amusing. It's helped me slaughter many otherwise wasted hours while at work on dead nights. Additionally, evidently the long rants, monologues and stories I put in my blog are things girls find attractive because I've been beset by members of the fairer gender who find me "interesting," "smart," "attractive" and crap like that.

One of these girls happens to live a few blocks away. We've hung out a few times... we get along awesome; very similar personalities (she said last night that I seem to understand her better than anyone she's ever met). We both have ADD, we both own birds, she's Asian and I find Asian girls attrctive, I'm white and she finds white guys attractive. Her parents think I'm a nice boy. She's fascinated by my artwork and taste in music (she actually likes the Meatmen :eek: ), and I'm fascinated at her personality. All things should be go, aside from one slight obstacle...

She neglected to tell me the first time we met up that she has a boyfriend. And though every discussion that ends up going that way seems to revolve around how he's (and I quote) "a dirty pervert," "a loser," "mean," "insensitive," "childish" and is 33 (we're both 22), holds a menial, low-wage job, has prior drug convictions, and thinks it'd be good for them to move back to Texas and live with his mom. Paradoxically, he doesn't care for spending time with her that much, particularly outside his apartment, which is 45 minutes away. He doesn't like shopping, seeing movies, going out to eat or much of anything else with her. He really enjoys criticising her as well, which sadly opens up some good opportunities for me to prove what a nice fellow I am. He's prone to severe mood swings in which he starts berating her and tells her that they should break up now since things aren't going anywhere anyway.

I found this out when we were out having lunch and he called up to ask her what was up. Evidently my name had been dropped previously because I herd him say "I thought I told you I don't want you hangin' out with that guy." They got into a brief argument that involved him saying that she wasn't allowed to hang out with her until he'd met me because he didn't trust me and her saying it wasn't any of his business. It concluded with her saying, "fine, do you want to talk to him?" and him freaking out saying "no." After this we went shopping and spent about 3/4 of an hour at Victoria's Secret, and I was at her place until 12.30 AM (we didn't do anything, honest). Evidently, not only do all her friends hate this guy, but her parents do as well, and they heard me talking and came down thinking it was him... they met me briefly and now maintain that "Tristan is a nice boy." All this served to really, REALLY piss him off...

Also, evidently, she's blabbed about me to all her friends (cool), all of whom think I seem pretty cool, and want to meet me. She invited me to a birthday party for one fo her friends tonight but her BF found out and invited himself along. Inasmuch as from what it sounds like, the guy wants to kill me... I think I'll avoid it. But she wants to go hiking with me tomorrow. She also asked if she could come over to my place yesterday and asked if I could call off from work so that we could spend more time together... tempting, but I really would prefer *not* to do anything with her until loserboy is out of the picture.

Is it possible for me to end up in a semi-normal relationship? Lesbians, drug addicts, girls who think they're magicians... WTF?

earthman buck

08-25-2006, 08:52 PM

Geez, Pony. Geez.

She sounds like a great gal, but why doesn't she dump that dirtbag? Has she even attempted it? It's kind of a no-brainer; Tristan vs. abusive junkie scumhole. Is it just because she's afraid of what he'll do if she does?

z0s0_jp

08-25-2006, 09:23 PM

why has she not broke it off totally.....disturbing......take time with this, young padawan

z0s0_jp

08-25-2006, 09:27 PM

Is it possible for me to end up in a semi-normal relationship? Lesbians, drug addicts, girls who think they're magicians... WTF?
you live in L.A. right??? so the answer would be NO

Mark Pav

08-25-2006, 10:09 PM

You know, I read your post, PonyOne, and at first I was happy for you. You seemed to have met someone you could relate to and who liked you. But as I kept reading, I started to develop the sort of feeling people get as you watch a girl on a horror movie walk deeper and deeper into that dark old house all alone and calling, "Hello? Is anyone home?" You sit there thinking, "Get out now! Quick, while you can still make it!"

Why she even went out with this guy in the first place is cause for concern; the fact she's still with him--to whatever extent--is a bigger worry. The fact that she met you on a dating site when she has a boyfriend isn't a great sign, either. And you're just getting to know her and she takes you out shopping at Victoria's Secret? And you didn't do anything?! (Not that I'm advocating that you should have, but it does seem weird).

Quick, while you can still make it.

PonyOne

08-25-2006, 10:12 PM

Yeah, LA does suck... romantically at least :(

Yeah, I don't know... I mean I'm not going to do anything with her till she ditches the loser... I don't want ANYTHING to do with being a homewrecker, even if they don't live together, they seem to not really get along, etc. I mean if I'm seeing someone I'll help fight their battles for them but up until that point they're on their own. I've got my own crap to deal with...

Thanks for the Tristan vs. abusive junkie scumhole pair-off, Earthman! :D I gather that neither of them really wants to be the one who breaks it off. Also, well, how to put this without sounding shallow... I imagine that he gets sick of her, then sees her again and is like "nevermind." She's... pretty damned hot. Like, REALLY hot. Sad that he doesn't appreciate the person that goes along with the hotness... But in any case, I've only heard her say like two positive things about him, and both were kind of entrenched in a bunch of criticism.

He had no desireto go to this party until he found out that I was going... and so I don't know... I get the feeling it was him trying to do one of or all of the following:

-save face by proving that he will go out with her, in public places
-keep her from being on a dancefloor with me in a room with dark lights and pounding sexy music where drinks are served
-throw a couple swings at me

Oh well... serendipitously, my phone has COMPLETELY died and I can't call her. Also, one of my front tires is shredded and ready to go, and I probably shouldn't drive all the way to the club with it... so... we'll see :(

PonyOne

08-25-2006, 10:16 PM

z0s0_jp

08-25-2006, 10:36 PM

He had no desire to go to this party until he found out that I was going... so I don't know...
again i say disturbing.......i'm focusing on the ...."he found out" bit

pure

08-25-2006, 10:47 PM

yea tristan you might not want to get too involved with her cause the guy seems like a very abusive man with a loose temper. you don't know what can happen. you hanging with her could even end up to him beating her some more, as it seems its already been happening. and there's probably a reeally good reason why she hasn't left him. my guess is she can't or else he'd be real pissed and it seems he's not such a good guy pissed. he seems like he's a big guy. when you know he's gonna be near, be with some friends. figure out a way to get her out of the situation before you continue being with her or else its only gonna get worse. thats just what i would do if i was in a situation like yours..

Hammurabi

08-25-2006, 10:59 PM

I think if he ever behaves in a physically threatening manner you should find a baseball bat and discuss a few things with him.

magicninja

08-25-2006, 11:45 PM

Hmmm, this is a no win situation. even if she does break it off with him odds are he's gonna be the kind of prick who sticks around to make life miserable for the two of you. She made the mistake of letting this guy know what she was doing with you. If she would have decided to leave him and then after a while he found out about you then the circumstances would have been managable. As it stands you come off looking like the ahole who went in and stole this guys girl. Any man that is self conscious is gonna take this as disrespect. After all you know she is in a relationship so common sense tells you to only get involved to a certain point. I can't see how you can come out of this with her. Unless the guy really doesn't wanna fight and runs home to mommy. By your desription of him I don't think that is happening. Whatever happens take care of yourself man.

PonyOne

08-26-2006, 01:22 AM

See one of the weird things is that I seriously doubt that he physically abuses her, though he obviously screws with her emotionally. She sticks up for herself, and when she does, he seems to back down; from what I know about psychology (which is a bit... my mom is a psychologist and I've read numerous books on the subject), this is actually a really bad indicator, the classic passive-aggressive. He can dish it out but can't take it back, and he does sound really immature... so chances are quite bad that he'd try something physical, especially at the moment, since his emotions regarding me and her are running high. And as such I'm sitting here typing this instead of going out to the club.

I know that he's about as tall as me, and she said that he looks like I did, pre-weight loss, which means that he probably weighs 240 lbs... so... he's definitely got the advantage of mass. I run a lot now, and lift an increasing amount of weights, so I have pretty ripped shoulders, chest and arms... I'd have the advantage of stamina and agility, as well as physical strength. I've been in a LOT of fights and have taken martial arts, and I'm pretty clear when I'm in a fight But all that's trumped by the fact that I'm not batisht crazy and driven by jealous rage... and regardless I'd rather not spend the night in jail or the hospital. I don't even know why I'm thinking this because I've done a lot to remove myself from situations like this. So I think this is for the best...

I think I'm going to take a step back until all this garbage with them breaking up happens, and otherwise try to remove myself from things so that if they do break up and he's angry, it won't seem like I was an integral part of things. As zoso pointed out, she told him that I was coming (I was there when she said it actually), and so I would rather not do anything overly incriminating with her (my roommate thought we'd already had sex, or at least made out, based on the time she spent in my room and how she interacts with me). As much of a twisted ego boost as "he's better in the sack than you" would be it'd also be an invitation for him to lose it, because as much of an ego boost it'd be for me it'd be a stab to him.

Hammurabi, I hope it doesn't come to that... haha... if I were seeing her and he did anything like the above, I'd grab something blunt to hold him back while the cops came. He has prior convictions so it wouldn't look good for him...

This is why I posted this... I knew you guys'd help me put it in perspective. :cool: Thanks all!

magicninja

08-26-2006, 01:38 AM

I hope she don't get the idea to use you against him. That wouldn't be cool.

jeffhx

08-26-2006, 01:58 AM

hmm i have a bad feeling abt this situation dude...pricks will always be pricks and he does sound like the type which will stalk her and whatnot (as someone else said earlier on)...backing off for the time being may be a good idea but i dont think it will really help as much as the stalking is concerned...if he's that kind that is...but if anything threatening would to happen yea a man to man talk would be great... good luck tristan!

PonyOne

08-26-2006, 02:07 AM

I don't think that she'd use me against him... of course it doesn't really matter whether or not she does if he's nuts like that; he could use me against him :rolleyes:

People who are psychotic sociopaths suck.

Worst comes to worst though, me and my homeboy Theo will take care of business!!
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v415/tristan_s/tristantheohell.jpg

Fenderalltheway

08-26-2006, 01:16 PM

Patience is the key...It seems that in the near future she will decide to dump that idiot and go for you.

Good luck ;)

Krunek

08-26-2006, 02:14 PM

Ah, women... Not that I know you that well, dude, but if you don"t mind me saying? You should ask her what exactly does she want. Him? You? In what manner? As a friend? Or something more? Does she need some time? If so, don"t push it. Bad thing with girls. :) And in the meantime, as for avoiding this other dude... Well.. I hate, apsolutely hate conflicts. I avoid any arguments or stuff whenever I can. But, hiding is no way to lead the life... If **** hits the fan, well... Make sure that it comes from this other guy, not you. In my experience,
(I have been in a few fights, mostly over girls, can"t stand when some guy is herrasing a girl) guys that have loud mouth and take out their frustrations on their girls, usually turn into a sobbing, drooling tiny peace on the floor after few hits. But, that is the final and most radical solution. Don"t go there unless you really, really, really have to.
Hope you don"t mind me sending this. Just trying to help out. Or at least I hope so.

Andrew Sa

08-26-2006, 03:01 PM

ah Pony, you and your Asian girls...I cant tell you what to do...but I'm sure that you'll figure it out so that wahtever happens is the best situation.

Akira

08-26-2006, 05:15 PM

Hmm, whilst the most appealing thing to do seems to be "back off for a bit", I think maybe you've passed the point of no return, as it seems. She's probably looking for someone to confide in, being as she obviously can't confide in her boyfriend, and that someone turns out to be you. Backing away might cause her problems. People keep mentioning about her eventually ditching her current boyfriend, but why hasn't she done that already? You mentioned they don't live together, so I'm guessing she's no financially dependant on him.

And yeah, violence is not the answer, but if he does try anything, make sure you let him know who's boss. *hands Tristan some lube* :p

PonyOne

08-26-2006, 05:37 PM

And yeah, violence is not the answer, but if he does try anything, make sure you let him know who's boss. *hands Tristan some lube* :p
eeeeeeeuuuuuuuuu

Akira

08-26-2006, 05:48 PM

eeeeeeeuuuuuuuuu

I can tell you're considering it.

Big boy. ;)

earthman buck

08-26-2006, 08:24 PM

Yeah, part of me wants to say 'back off,' but another part of me wants to say 'screw that jerk, you really like this chick.'

If it was me, in all honesty, I would probably back off (and miss her very much) until the breakup is complete. I'm very non-confrontational.

PonyOne

08-26-2006, 09:19 PM

Yeah, I'm not very confrontational either... I'd really rather not get into a big orchestra of misery.

She left a couple messages on my phone last night, too (my phone is pretty much dead and only works sporadically). She may end up hanging out with me later... who knows.

I'm just going to take it as it comes. Sans sex.

6strngs_2hmbkrs

08-26-2006, 09:45 PM

PonyOne

08-26-2006, 10:24 PM

take her and run far away... leave him no way of finding you, and you're good!

but seriously though, talk to her. ask her what she wants, and if she breaks up with him, and he doesn't like it... well... you could take him ;) just don't get shot or anything.
I know, he's from Texas... I should be careful. You never know what Texans are going to do in situations like these (just kidding to all you Texans out there ;) I'm sure most of you would tell him to be a real man and knock it the hell off, and treat his woman like he should or step the hell aside and let a real man take over... right? :D ).

Yeah, I should take her back to MA. Move her back to Bedford... she'd be like the only Chinese girl there... that would probably be strange for her. Of course she lived in Iowa for four years... I don't know much about Iowa. I don't know. First things first though: prick boyfriend must disappear.

GuitarPsy

08-27-2006, 07:31 AM

seems to me like you got most parts figured out.

I used to be very confrontating and I've been into some nasty situations where the boyfriend threatened to kill the girl if she'd break up (my ex.) and with another guy who threatened to kill me if I didn't back off (same ex, different boyfriend) since I just spoke my mind (trust me, I'm not nice if I see guys treat women bad), after that she became my girl for 2,5 years, unfortunately that's over for half a year but anyway

luckily for me I never got into any fight, because I backed off in time, as I've learned from experience (hey I'm 22 as well ;)) give the girl some breathing room, back off a bit, it's her 'problem', she's gotta solve it, and if you're smart give that boyfriend the impression you're really backing off but not as if you're scared or something, that way you give him some room as well, I know it takes some time but it will avoid the situation where that guy will make your lives miserable

t.b.h. I think you're doing pretty good in such a situation, especially with the 'not-getting-intimate'-part, respect to that!

I'm just telling what I think the wisest course of action would be, not what my feelings are, because I would f*ck that guy up for good! ...sorry :p

Lordathestrings

08-27-2006, 12:24 PM

^ What he said.^

I get the 'yellow fever' myself, so I can identify. The BF is bad news, but he shouldn't be your problem unless you become a problem for him. You have gotten his attention now because this girl made a point of getting you into his face. That's manipulation of a very dangerous kind. She may be bad news too. Get this across to her very clearly: you have no interest in her until she dumps the a-hole.

Tonja_Renee

08-27-2006, 03:48 PM

Well.. I guess I'll have to agree with the previous posts.

Because this girl has a boyfriend and was registered with a on-line dating service, and with no immediate plans for getting rid of this boyfriend. This is just screaming drama...

Don't get caught up in this circle. I'm getting the sense that this is a game for her. From what you have said, I see no indication why she would be afraid to dump this guy. So my gut is telling me that she is using your friendship to make him pay more attention to her, and which also seems to be working for her I might add.

I know you really like this girl, but I would definately back away from this situation. Until this girl can make her intentions crystal clear for you, I wouldn't even hang out with her. It's my opinion that I don't think you will get what you want by still chumming around with this chick.

PonyOne

08-27-2006, 06:06 PM

Don't get caught up in this circle. I'm getting the sense that this is a game for her. From what you have said, I see no indication why she would be afraid to dump this guy. So my gut is telling me that she is using your friendship to make him pay more attention to her, and which also seems to be working for her I might add.
Yeah, I was talking to one of my friends, and he warned me of this too... granted I've been used for this before so I should recognize it... but he said that he met a really awesome girl who was dating a complete loser who didn't appreciate her, and she used my friend to get the bf jealous so that he'd pay attention to her again. Now they're happily married and expecting their first kid, and my friend is still girlfriendless.

I know you really like this girl, but I would definately back away from this situation. Until this girl can make her intentions crystal clear for you, I wouldn't even hang out with her. It's my opinion that I don't think you will get what you want by still chumming around with this chick.
Good advice. I think that is precisely what I'm going to do. Not necessarily happy about it, or the situation at all, but the more I think about it the more I think it's not worth the drama it's guaranteed to bring me :(

earthman buck

08-27-2006, 07:38 PM

That's the spirit. Best just to back off for a lil' bit. I'm sure something will work out. Or at least I hope it will.

acapella

08-27-2006, 09:21 PM

Good old GT. Always there to cheer me up when I'm feeling down.

PonyOne

08-28-2006, 07:17 PM

yeah... this forum kicks arse :)

she actually met up with me between classes today and brought me lunch :eek: and then her mom, who'd dropped me off, came to say hi and there was a brief exchange between them. I don't understand Chinese, but at one point the mom said something looking at me, then the girl said "blah blah blah blah monday, wednesday, friday blah blah blah blah" which are interestingly enough the days I have school... her mom was also seemingly quite impressed with my chopstick ability.

So I don't know WTF is going on in regards to that, but, before her mom came and sat down, I had a brief heart to heart with her, in which I informed her that I can't be her pretend-boyfriend and I'd prefer if he knew that I didn't want to be because he sounds like a complete jerk moron and I would really rather him not blame me for all their problems. She seemed kind of bummer out by my saying this, but, at least it's been laid out obviously... she's supposed to help me study Japanese tomorrow (she speaks Japanese in addition to Chinese) and wanted to make sure that we were still going to after the little chat so evidently things are OK.

Rest assured I'm ready to drop it and run if things get dramatic... I have other things in my life to focus on right now.

jeffhx

08-28-2006, 08:07 PM

im chinese and i cant speak a single word of chinese...im just bad with languages...anyway glad to hear things seem to be going good !

earthman buck

08-28-2006, 08:16 PM

im chinese and i cant speak a single word of chinese...im just bad with languages...anyway glad to hear things seem to be going good !
Yeah, you haven't even mastered English yet!

Just kidding, buddy. :)

PonyOne

08-28-2006, 08:44 PM

Yeah, I haven't gathered it's an easy language to learn... not that Japanese is that much easier... I'm decent with English but don't seem to be able to learn another language in its entirety... just snippets :( I'm hoping to break that chain though!

Lordathestrings

08-28-2006, 08:55 PM

PonyOne

08-28-2006, 09:06 PM

English is a very hard language to learn, because the rules of grammar and spelling are so complicated and often contradictory.

Japanese is apparently quite easy by comparison. The hard part is learning to understand the thought processes behind the language. I have heard that it takes about 3 generations to get a good start on that! ;)
Japanese is WAY straightforward, from my standpoint! No tenses, you just add on the particle "ka" to change a statement to a question, and other particles like "no" and "wa" to link to things together (examples: "watashi wa gakusee = I am a student/watashi wa gakusee desu ka? = are you a student?)... no inflection necessary for anything... hell, sounds cool to me! The only thing that doesn't jive well with me is the speed that native Japanese speakers fire off in... jesus... I mean it's like "budabudabudabudabudabudabudabuda hai. budabudabudabudabudabudabuda hai." :eek:

Oh well, at least I have a study buddy! I'm also friends with a few Japanese people at work, and everyone at the local Japanese supermarket loves me for being the big lovable white guy who can greet them in crappy Japanese.

jeffhx

08-28-2006, 09:09 PM

Japanese is WAY straightforward, from my standpoint! No tenses, you just add on the particle "ka" to change a statement to a question, and other particles like "no" and "wa" to link to things together (examples: "watashi wa gakusee = I am a student/watashi wa gakusee desu ka? = are you a student?)... no inflection necessary for anything... hell, sounds cool to me! The only thing that doesn't jive well with me is the speed that native Japanese speakers fire off in... jesus... I mean it's like "budabudabudabudabudabudabudabuda hai. budabudabudabudabudabudabuda hai." :eek:

Oh well, at least I have a study buddy! I'm also friends with a few Japanese people at work, and everyone at the local Japanese supermarket loves me for being the big lovable white guy who can greet them in crappy Japanese.

you just made me wonder where has big buda been...

back in high school there was this japanese craze as everyone (mostly the nerds :p ) were really into japanese animes...so everyone was trying to learn the language...they brought these huge 'learn hot to speak japanese' books and kept going on and on...

pfft nerds :rolleyes:

earthman buck

08-28-2006, 09:12 PM

Oh well, at least I have a study buddy! I'm also friends with a few Japanese people at work, and everyone at the local Japanese supermarket loves me for being the big lovable white guy who can greet them in crappy Japanese.
That's why we love you too. :)

I took Judo for 4 1/2 years, so I can count to 10 in Japanese. And I can do it while practicing sweet throws like o-goshi and ippon-seoi-nage!

PonyOne

08-28-2006, 09:37 PM

you just made me wonder where has big buda been...

back in high school there was this japanese craze as everyone (mostly the nerds :p ) were really into japanese animes...so everyone was trying to learn the language...they brought these huge 'learn hot to speak japanese' books and kept going on and on...

pfft nerds :rolleyes:
Yeah... there was a push here in the US that has died off, somewhat, but you still get it to some extent. There are a few disenfrnachised, nerdy-looking kids in the class who I imagine go home and watch Neon Genesis Evangelion over and over and over and over.

I appreciate some animes; ones that are good... Cowboy Bebop, FLCL, Akira, etc. It's actually a documented subculture, the anime geeks; Otaku, they call them. Kind of embarassing. There's a whole subculture of people (largely guys) who felt marginalized in the US for being "nerds" or "geeks" and Japan has a storied history of valuing education, wisdom and learning above all else. They become interested in Japanese culture as a form of escapism from a culture they feel maligns them; they start watching animes that often feature a nerdy, socially inept and awkward dork of a young man who is somehow beset by hordes of attractive Japanese girls (example: the series "Love Hina" which is really just adolescent pre-porn) and begin to fantasize about moving to this country where they will be admired for their humble, withdrawn, studious nature. They become obsessed, and do as much as they can to learn about Japanese culture, though it's all through their own eyes and pretexts... so their knowledge of the culture is tragically off (much like many Japanese peoples' views of American culture).

It's actually amusing, in a sad way, that otaku are now known in Japan... whereas ten years ago, an American, Canadian, Australian or Brit who moved to Japan was apt to be legitimately interested in Japanese culture, and this was what made them attractive to Japanese women and interesting to Japanese men, they're now often wary because of tales of pathetic dorks from said countries moving there with their skewed, tragically off views, and settling into Japanese society as, well, a socially awkward and inept nerd who happens to have been born in another country. Basically, imagine thinking you're getting Paul Walker and ending up with Napoleon Dynamite. Thinking you're getting Angelina Jolie and getting... some nerd girl instead.

Hopefully, when I move there, I won't be looked upon as one of these types...

PonyOne

08-28-2006, 09:39 PM

That's why we love you too. :)

I took Judo for 4 1/2 years, so I can count to 10 in Japanese. And I can do it while practicing sweet throws like o-goshi and ippon-seoi-nage!
Aww, thanks guys!! :D

Yeah, that's how I learned to count to ten in Japanese. Ichi, ni, san, shi, go, roku, shichi, hachi, ku, juu are forever burned into my brains :)

Krunek

08-28-2006, 11:25 PM

That's why we love you too. :)

I took Judo for 4 1/2 years, so I can count to 10 in Japanese. And I can do it while practicing sweet throws like o-goshi and ippon-seoi-nage!

Heh, I am better... :p I can count up to 99. See, after 10 it goes like juuichi, juuni... after 19, nijuuichi...and so forth. It is the exact same thing in Croatian. Just don"t know if they write it together or separately? And I can count while doing push ups on one hand
and practicing haito punches with the other... ;) he-he...

PonyOne

08-29-2006, 12:07 AM

Heh, I am better... I can count up to 99. See, after 10 it goes like juuichi, juuni... after 19, nijuuichi...and so forth. It is the exact same thing in Croatian. Just don"t know if they write it together or separately? And I can count while doing push ups on one hand
and practicing haito punches with the other... he-he...
what do you mean by together or serperately?

I could type out the literation of it in Japanese if this computer had a Japanese keyboard set on it... :( It can get a bit nuts when you get up there... like the famous flash animation, Hyakugojyuuichi, which is 151... :p

Krunek

08-29-2006, 01:08 AM

what do you mean by together or serperately?

I could type out the literation of it in Japanese if this computer had a Japanese keyboard set on it... :( It can get a bit nuts when you get up there... like the famous flash animation, Hyakugojyuuichi, which is 151... :p

I have just replied to this one and I have no idea where that reply went???!
O.K. one more time. What I meant was, do they write it like yuuichi or yuu ichi? Probably the first case, but then again, I am not that good with japanese. This was also on the first reply (????): Someone before mentioned how english is hard. Agreed. But compared to german, english is a piece of aunt Mae"s apple pie. German, that is some tough grammar.
(Pony, dude, isn"t this thread supposed to be about your girl or something? :) We have kind of strayed... )

PonyOne

08-29-2006, 01:15 AM

I have just replied to this one and I have no idea where that reply went???!
O.K. one more time. What I meant was, do they write it like yuuichi or yuu ichi? Probably the first case, but then again, I am not that good with japanese.
Bingo! Part of the problem with written Japanese is knowing where one word ends and another begins... same with the numbers. It would be written "jyuuichi" or "yonhyakunanahachi."

(Pony, dude, isn"t this thread supposed to be about your girl or something? :) We have kind of strayed... )
stranger things have happened ;)

Krunek

08-29-2006, 01:31 AM

Bingo! Part of the problem with written Japanese is knowing where one word ends and another begins... same with the numbers. It would be written "jyuuichi" or "yonhyakunanahachi."

stranger things have happened ;)

He-he... Thanks for explaining. You know one really important thing about japanese? You probably do, but, just in case... Have you ever noticed how men and women speak differently there? Man strongly, sharply and women quiet and tender? Well, it is a custom there. So, if you are learning japanese,
make sure you learn to talk like a guy... or you will one day talk with a japanese guy and he will laugh at you. ;)

PonyOne

09-15-2006, 10:39 PM

UPDATE TIME!!!

So she han't seen him in two weeks and after I was over at her place last night, she says she's going to dump him ;)

I mean the girl brings me lunch at work. I mentioned once in a text message I needed caffeine, and the girl shows up within a half an hour at my job with two sugarfree Red Bulls. Two nights ago, she offered to give me a pedicure and I declined (my toenails are tres nasty), but she insisted last night on washing my feet for me. I don't know wtf I did but it worked great. Actually, I know exactly what I did... I told her I wasn't interested and blew her off a few times, avoided the topic of her boyfriend, and made no romantic gestures to her, like everyone here suggested. I guess I proved myself the better man.

As it turns out, she'd been molested as a kid, which she thinks is part of the reason she went toward him... She said that I'm the only person she's okay with touching her, that pretty much everyone else makes her feel awkward. I guess that says something nice about me.

I still like her quite a bit but I met another girl - cute little half-Asian thing, about like 5 feet tall, and sweet as can be - in my Japanese class. She lives right behind the hotel I work at, and we've been hanging out a bit... so I drop her off today after class, and she leans over to give me a hug, gives me a huge smooch, and tells me to call her later.

Hmmm. Romance. It's a strange bird...

6strngs_2hmbkrs

09-16-2006, 02:14 AM

I still like her quite a bit but I met another girl - cute little half-Asian thing, about like 5 feet tall, and sweet as can be - in my Japanese class. She lives right behind the hotel I work at, and we've been hanging out a bit... so I drop her off today after class, and she leans over to give me a hug, gives me a huge smooch, and tells me to call her later.
woah dang! you're a playa!

but seriously, if I was the first girl, and I brok up with my bf for you only to find you were with some other girl already, I'd be pissed.

PonyOne

09-16-2006, 02:52 AM

Hey, she had her chance. Actually, no, things are still up in the air in both regards. I'm just chilling, waiting to see what happens and how things end up.

Mark Pav

09-16-2006, 12:15 PM

I told her I wasn't interested and blew her off a few times, avoided the topic of her boyfriend, and made no romantic gestures to her, like everyone here suggested.

You probably drove her nuts. Many girls can't handle it when you're not paying them lots of attention and that's a guaranteed way to attract them to you. Ironically, once they have your undivided romantic attention they're not interested anymore.

Ah well. Good luck. :)

earthman buck

09-16-2006, 05:44 PM

You horndog, you. You are hereby not allowed to ever post love-trouble threads ever again. :)

GuitarPsy

09-23-2006, 05:23 PM

way to go women-magnet!! I'd say just go with the flow for a while, but make sure you know what the best choice would be, make sure you know what you want and what your relationship with one of them can become

I'd say enjoy for the while being